enjoyablycrazy a demandé: gotta admit i've had nothing but bad experiences regarding social justice people but the way you keep your cool and focus on calmly explaining your point of view using facts is pretty admirable and is making me a lot more open to your ideas
Since you’re so willing to grace one of Those PeopleTM your super valuable opinion on Those PeopleTM, I’ll share a secret with you.
You’re my #1 least favorite type of person in the universe.
I’ll take a raving bigot any day over an insidious purveyor of backhanded compliment-slinging “You’re not like those OTHER [marginalized group of people], you’re admirable and use facts and keep cool and caaaaalm.”
The main information conveyed to me by this message is:
1. That you have said or done things that have caused harm to marginalized people or witnessed such an incident
2. and instead of listening, being respectful, and starting to consider other people’s well-being, mental health, and physical survival and how you (yes, you!) can positively or negative affect that
3. You decided that “social justice types” are (to use the opposite words to the ones you’ve just used to describe me) angry, unfocused, not-calm, do not explain, do not use facts, are unworthy of admiration, and these things cause you to close your tender ears to their “ideas”.
In other words, you’ve just said a lot about you, and really nothing about anyone else.
This is far from the first message like this I’ve gotten, and I’m sure it won’t be the last.
Not to mention that there are plenty who are firmly of the opinion that I am, in fact, none of the things you claim that I am.
If you really think that I’m so starved for approval that I would accept and become implicit in the dehumanizing insult you’ve just levied at countless other bloggers who you deem “social justice types”, you’ve got an entirely other thing coming.
As I’ve just said, diversity of perspectives is important to show, and now you’ve shown yours: that marginalized people are only worthy of your precious openness to their “ideas” if they behave toward you in the manner you feel entitled to.
I engage this material emotionally, passionately, excitedly, angrily, openly, happily, and with great joy. All you really want from sending this message is to use my supposed credibility to undermine people you dislike, or that you believe shouldn’t be allowed to speak to you in a certain manner.
I am not your “social justice” buddy you can use as a bludgeon on a pedestal in an attempt to make other people, who you perceive to be of a “type” with me, behave. Shame on you.
Sj, tone policing,